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“We all know bad manners when we see them,” NPR and Vanity Fair contributor Henry Alford observes at the beginning of his new book. But what, he asks, do good manners look like in our day and age? When someone answers their cell phone in the middle of dining with you, or runs you off the sidewalk with their doublewide stroller, or you enter a post-apocalyptic public restroom, the long-revered wisdom of Emily Post can seem downright prehistoric.

Troubled by the absence of good manners in his day-to-day life-by the people who clip their toenails on the subway or give three-letter replies to one’s laboriously crafted missives-Alford embarks on a journey to find out how things might look if people were on their best behavior a tad more often. He travels to Japan (the “Fort Knox Reserve” of good manners) to observe its culture of collective politesse. He interviews etiquette experts both likely (Judith Martin, Tim Gunn) and unlikely (a former prisoner, an army sergeant). He plays a game called Touch the Waiter. And he volunteers himself as a tour guide to foreigners visiting New York City in order to do ground-level reconnaissance on cultural manners divides. Along the way (in typical Alford style) he also finds time to teach Miss Manners how to steal a cab; designates the World’s Most Annoying Bride; and tosses his own hat into the ring, volunteering as an online etiquette coach.

Ultimately, by tackling the etiquette questions specific to our age-such as Why shouldn’t you ask a cab driver where’s he’s from?, Why is posting baby pictures on Facebook a fraught activity? and What’s the problem with “No problem”?-Alford finds a wry and warm way into a subject that has sometimes been seen as pedantic or elitist. And in this way, he looks past the standard “dos” and “don’ts” of good form to present an illuminating, seriously entertaining book about grace and civility, and how we can simply treat each other better.

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"One of the best books of the year." (2008)

- Publishers Weekly, Starred Review
"Poignant...The Verdict: Read."

- Time
"While Alford's slaying wit and intellectual nimbleness put him on a par with Wilde and Benchley, his personal investment infuses "How to Live" with an emotional expansiveness uniquely his own."

- Vanity Fair
"Alford is a master of turns of phrase, diction, dialog, and technique. Essential reading."

- Library Journal, Starred Review
"Essayist Henry Alford [is] the Socrates of dilettantes."

- Newsweek

On Sale: Jan 3, 2012
Publisher: Hachette Audio
ISBN-13: 9781611135633

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Henry Alford

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Henry Alford is the author of three acclaimed works of investigative humor: How To Live: A Seach for Wisdom from Old People (While They are Still on this Earth); Big Kiss: One Actor’s Desperate Attempt to Claw His Way to the Top; and Municipal Bondage: One Man’s Anxiety-Producing Adventures in the Big City. He has been a regular contributor to the New York Times and Vanity Fair, and a staff writer at Spy. He has also written for the New Yorker, GQ, New York, Details, Harper’s Bazaar, Travel & Leisure, the Village Voice, and the Paris Review. He lives in Manhattan.

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